Monthly Archives: September 2013

Blogtember: Monday, September 9th


Today’s Challenge:  Take this short personality test and respond to your results. (at the end, find the detailed profile of your personality account – click “click to view” under “You” and “self awareness and personal growth.” You can even Google your type and find more info on it!)


Being educated in both Psychology and Counseling, you would think these types of personality and type tests wouldn’t surprise me anymore, as I’ve taken most of them and administered them numerous times.  That being said, I was genuinely surprised at how accurate this test was, as was my outcome:  ISFJ (Introverted, Sensing, Feeling, Judging).  The results stat that ISFJs are characterized above all by their desire to serve others, their “need to be needed.”  This couldn’t be more true in my life.  I am constantly trying to do things for, or help others, and I just can’t help myself.  A hindrance or a help…it’s me.

“ISFJs are often unappreciated, at work, home, and play. Ironically, because they prove over and over that they can be relied on for their loyalty and unstinting, high-quality work, those around them often take them for granted–even take advantage of them. Admittedly, the problem is sometimes aggravated by the ISFJs themselves; for instance, they are notoriously bad at delegating (“If you want it done right, do it yourself”). And although they’re hurt by being treated like doormats, they are often unwilling to toot their own horns about their accomplishments because they feel that although they deserve more credit than they’re getting, it’s somehow wrong to want any sort of reward for doing work (which is supposed to be a virtue in itself). (And as low-profile Is, their actions don’t call attention to themselves as with charismatic Es.) Because of all of this, ISFJs are often overworked, and as a result may suffer from psychosomatic illnesses.”

I felt like I was reading my life story in this paragraph.  I always feel I need to have the house perfectly cleaned, a variety of groceries to choose from in the cabinet, spend an adequate amount of time (but not too much!) with friends and various family members, as well as time with my husband, and heck, even my dog!  Extreme bouts of guilt come over me in any one of these situations when I feel that I’m not living up to my full potential or expectations that have been set by no one but myself.  It’s exhausting!  It’s also highly difficult to change.  At work, with family or friends, or in my personal life, I always wait to feel this sense of accomplishment, or acknowledgement from others, but rarely get it…or do I?  After reading this, I’m realizing I just may be getting it and not absorbing it, or allowing it to really sink in.  Will anything every be good enough for this ISFJ? 

The career options that they offer for ISFJs also fits into my previous, current, and future job prospects as well.  I have worked in an administrative/secretarial role in an office for five years, and strive to be a counselor, both which are jobs listed in this description of an ISFJ.  Helping people, but still flying under the radar is a funny thing.  You want to be noticed for your accomplishments, your speed, your goals and dreams, and yet you don’t want confrontation, criticism, or any big changes, lest you freak out at the thought of something different.  This is all me!


This is probably my favorite Blogtember writing challenge thus far.  It requires self-reflection, thought, openness and honesty, which can be hard to push yourself to do in writing.  What profile did you get?


Blogtember Day 4: September 6th


A story about a time you were very afraid…


Although I’m sure there are many, many times when I’ve felt very afraid, one time in particular from my childhood pops nto my mind right away.


1.  When I was about eight or nine years old, I was running around my best friend’s neighborhood with her and a neighborhood friend.  The friend (a little boy) was a bit more mischievous than I, however he somehow convinced us that it would be funny to throw small pebbles/rocks from a distance at a parked truck a few houses away.  He said those neighbors were away on vacation and for whatever reason, this sounded like a great time.  The funny thing is, I was naturally a shy, introverted child who never did things like that, especially destructive things, but I went along with it this time anyway.  After tossing the rocks for a few minutes and laughing about them bouncing off the truck, a sedan came barreling around the corner of the neighborhood and screeched up beside the three of us.  I took off running across lawns in the opposite direction, leaving my super cool mini backpack behind, and so did the friend, but my best friend tried to hide behind a bush.  This middle aged man jumped out of the car yelling at us about throwing rocks (mind you, I don’t know who the man was and don’t believe he lived there), and tried to grab my friend.  She finally got away, and he loaded up our bags in his car and took off.  We burst into her parents house and told them what was happening, and eventually her parents came outside with us and found the man in the car and explained the situation.  My memory fails me as to why he did what he did, but either way I remember being completely frightened, felt horrible for giving in to pressure to throw the rocks, and also completely weirded out that he reached for my eight year old girl friend.  That memory sticks with me after all these years as being so scary!


Moral of the story:  Creepers are everywhere…and respect other people’s property.  Lesson learned!

Blogtember: Day 3, September 5th


Good Morning my friends! 

Today’s Blogtember prompt:  Pass on some useful advice or information you learned and always remembered.

I’m not 100% sure where I heard this piece of advice, but something that I think is very true is:

You cannot love others before you truly love yourself. 

This is not always something that is easy to do.  In fact, I think it can be extremely difficult and deceiving at times.  You may be able to convince yourself that you love another person (be it in a relationship or with a family member or friend), but in reality, this is not the case.  You may be feeling infatuation, or even something you think is love.  Until you can look at your inner self each and every day and be happy with the overall soul that you are, I don’t feel you can begin to share love with anyone else.

I’ve been given a lot of useful advice in my years of life, many pieces which are valuable to me.  This is just one of the many that stays at my core.



Blogtember: Day 2


It’s that time again!  What time?  Blogtember time!

Wednesday, September 4: If you could take three months off from your current life and do anything in the world, what would you do?


Three months off!?  That doesn’t seem nearly long enough to do all the things I would love to pack into my days.  Alas, this is fictional, so I will play along with the three month time frame.  If I had three months off from my current life, I would spend two weeks traveling to one or two amazing vacation spots.  I like to think Hawaii, and obviously use my private jet to get there, hopefully shortening the plane ride just a tad.  Hey, we’re dreaming here, right?  Two weeks of a vacation is enough for me, if I only have another two and a half months to be free from all responsibilities! 

I would spend some time (and money) setting up my own educational consulting business, which is a lifelong dream.  If I could give this venture my undivided attention for a month, I bet I would have it up and running in no time, and head back into regular life to gain clients and keep it afloat.

The other month and a half I would use to spend real quality time with friends (from anywhere in the country, so travel time would be included), family, and maybe even some volunteer ventures.  I would love to spend some time really diving into The Word and some more Christian Devotionals, and attend church much more regularly.  The beach, the mountains, tasty restaurants, at least ten great books, and just taking plenty of time to stop and smell the roses and breath in some fresh, clean air, without rushing to my car, to this building, or that appointment.  To really stop and enjoy life before it’s gone.  Time and life are oh-so precious my friends. 


What about you?

Why I love September


Fall has always been my favorite season, and this year is no exception!  Although I am sad to part ways with summer (sundresses, drippy iced teas, drive in movies…the list goes on!), I am more than ready for a little fall lovin’.  The fall has always marked the start of a new season of life for me.  Thirteen years of grade school, four years of college, and two years of graduate school will do that to ya!  Although I’ve been out of the school routine for quite awhile now, I still anticipate the the fall season.  Who says that fall can’t mark the beginning of a new season of your life?  This latter season of the year marks many fun and exciting events for me and my family, and I can honestly say, I’m embracing them in full force!

The Loves

  • Pumpkin everything (typical)
  • Boots
  • Skinny jeans and cozy sweaters
  • Fall scarves
  • Leggings (!!)
  • Halloween and all that it brings (haunted hayrides, haunted houses, trick or treaters!)
  • Seeing your breath in the frosty morning air
  • Cool mornings
  • Corn mazes

The Events

  • My 1st wedding anniversary!
  • My mother’s wedding (tender!)
  • My step sister’s baby shower
  • That baby being born
  • Thanksgiving, Christmas….maybe I’m getting a bit ahead of myself here

The No Thanks

  • Snow…yup, definitely ahead of myself

So, as you can see, my loves and events are many, and my dislikes are few.  Not gonna lie…I am NOT going to miss the snow when we eventually bid adieu to New York.  Winters in the Northeast are not a joke my friends.


What are you looking forward to this fall?  Anything you wish would stay away?

Blogtember: Day 1


I guess there’s really no excuse for my lack of posting for over a year, and no way to explain why I feel it’s time to jump back into it!  Maybe I felt that I had nothing to write about?  Perhaps I lacked blog topics?  Either way, here I am, and although I haven’t been writing, I’ve certainly been reading, and Jenni’s Blogtember Challenge inspired me to get writing!  So here I am; it feels good to be back!

Blogtember Challenge Day One:  Describe where or what you come from

I come from two people (don’t we all? Heh.), my mom and my dad.  My mom had me at the tender age of 19almost20 and my dad was 28.  I was an “unexpected surprise” to my parents, and sometimes I feel sad about forcing them to grow up so fast.  I’ve always been a mama’s girl, and to this day we are still extremely close.  My dad and I have become closer more recently, and it’s refreshing to actually enjoy spending time with both of your parents.

I come from a place of love, anger, sadness, envy, you name it.  My childhood was not exactly smooth sailing, but it was mine. I wouldn’t be the woman I am today without the strong, loving influence of those around me.  I don’t have much more to say other than that.  I love who and what I came from, and wouldn’t change a thing.