Monthly Archives: October 2011

How to love

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…the only song by Lil Wayne that I actually find bearable 😉

I read an interesting blog post this morning by one of my new (to me ) favorite bloggers, The Lunchbox Diaries.

Her post, entitled “Love Languages” really got me thinking.  As a newlywed who is a similar age to me, and studies in the same field, this blog post certainly peeked my interest.  Next fall I will be getting married, and I think that trying to identify your own love language, as well as talking to your partner about their own is crucial to having a successful marriage.

I encourage you all to head on over to Colleen’s post about this, but in the meantime, think with me.  Which of the five love languages listed do you consider to be yours?  I think I’m a pretty even mix of Quality Time and Acts of Service.  It’s hard to explain how much it means with my fiance (who is NOT a household chores kind of person) voluntarily washes a few dishes, or picks his socks up off the floor.  And for me, quality time goes without explanation.  I just love it.  Quality time makes me feel so much closer to him, and therefore, strengthens our bond as a couple.

I also agree with Colleen’s statement that relationships (and love) take work.  Many aspects of a relationship are not easy, and do take hard work and understanding between two people.  For instance, I’m pretty sure my fiance is more of a physical touch kind of person, and I have to make sure that I recognize his needs for that type of love, as well as respecting my own as well.  That can be a hard balance for some couples, especially if they haven’t taken the time to recognize one another’s language.  This is something that I really feel I will sit down with my fiance and discuss.  I feel that as an engaged couple, and eventually newlyweds, this can be a conversation and an understanding that could benefit our relationship immensely.

 

What do you all think about the concept of Languages of Love?

Happy Friday 🙂

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Post grad: Life in the…slow lane?

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Although I have yet to see the movie, (isn’t Alexis Bledel so adorable?) even the cover of the movie says a lot about post-grad lifestyle.  As you can see here, she’s got a suit, a hoodie and sneakers, a backback and a briefcase, looking both confident (the body) and totally confused (her head).  I think this sums up this particular point in life very well.  The confusion, the changes, the wearing of multiple hats.  All of these things come with the new territory that is being a “post grad.”  It’s hard to explain to someone who hasn’t been there exactly what the heck you’re doing.  “I’m sorry,  you’re doing WHAT with your degree?”  Yeah I’m a barista at Starbucks with a double major in Psychology and Math…and what??  The golden question is:

WHAT NOW?

I know for me life is a 9-5 desk job, followed by a lot, I repeat a LOT of television (hey, fall TV is pretty darn addicting!) with some reading for pleasure thrown in there.  Am I 100% happy in my productivity level as of late?  No.  Do I beat myself up over it on a daily basis?  Nope.  Life as a post grad person can be utterly frustrating, exciting, debilitating, exhausting, and exhilirating all at the same time.  In college (and grad school too), you’re molded into thinking that you’re going to become a fabulous writer/psychologist/teacher/anchorwoman right off the bat.  Prospective employers are going to be banging down your door and blowing up your cell with job offers.  WRONG.  More than ever in our current economy, post grads are facing more of a life surrounded with debt (hello school loans, how do you do?) and uncertainty rather than snapping closed their briefcases on Wall Street.  It’s really, utterly sad that this is what graduates have to look forward to. 

I myself am a POST post grad, meaning I have not only a double Bachelor’s but also a Master’s in counseling.  I want to help people, plain and simple.  But oh, it isn’t.  Nothing is cut and dry in the work world these days, which is why after hundreds of post-Master’s resumes and stellar (or so I think!) cover letters sent out, I have had ONE, count ’em ONE interview.  Sadly, that job wasn’t right for me and I’m back to square one.  Don’t get me wrong I have a fabulous office job for a wonderful boss who has treated me and my fellow co-workers very well over the last few years I’ve been here.  I’m just grateful and lucky I have a job at all, let alone one that I enjoy coming to everyday.  I consider myself very lucky as far as that goes.

However, it does still sting sometimes.  To know that your resume is sitting with the hundreds of other ones just waiting to be picked up, for a job that may be just perfect for you.  And it never really does.  I’m hoping and praying that the economy turns around one of these days, to allow old and new post grads alike the opportunity to spread their wings into the field they worked so hard to carve themselves a niche in.  I’m not there yet, but I know I will be.  So for now, I take great satisfaction that I come to work everyday happy and healthy.  I’m better off than a lot of other people, and I know that. 

Take a moment today and give thanks for your life’s blessings! 🙂

My Story: The Short Version

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Now’s probably a great time to give everyone (hi new readers!) a little background info on who The 20s Bride is!  There’s a brief synopsis on my food blogging past over on my About Me page, so if you’re interested in that (or information about my other blog), please head on over thurr.  Otherwise sit back, grab a beverage of your choice and let’s get to it.

I am 24 year old, New York native (no, not the city, and no I’m not going to say where), bride to be that’s finding my path in life.  To say that I’ve waited eagerly for the one I was going to marry is an understatement.  I’ve been in several long term (and long distance) relationships that have all taught me many valuable lessons.  I think that should be a post in itself entitled “Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me.” Anywho, I have finally met the man of my dreams, if you will, and we will be getting hitched next September.  Yippee!! Let the planning commence! 

And plan I have.  We’ve been engaged for about 2 months now and we have the venue, DJ, and photographer already booked, along with an engagement party already under our belts.  Not too shabby.  Next stop: honeymoon, invitations, florist, did I mention honeymoon? 😉

I graduated in May of 2011 with my Masters degree in counseling.  I am currently 3 years deep in an office job that I DO enjoy.  Enough said.

I’m trying to learn how to balance life as a 9-5 er, and so far all that has entailed is a whole lotta television.  Dance Moms anyone?  I need a hobby desperately, and decided to channel my inner English degree and blog…again.  I kinda dropped the ball on that the first time, so let’s start fresh.

So now that you know EVERYTHING (ha) there is to know about me…hows about you all? 

Talk to me!

Welcome Welcome Welcome!

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Welcome friends!

Whether this is our first encounter, or we have met before in my previous life, welcome!  I look forward to getting to know each and every one of you. 

 

I hope that The 20s Bride will offer you a little something you’re looking for whether is be wedding tidbits, foodie info, social media, money management tips for the 20something lady, shopping and fashion finds, or much more!  I have a lot in store for this blog and I can’t wait to take you all along for the ride!

 

Welcome to my life 🙂